New Kind of Art: Gift Giving
With the approach of the new year, the issue of giving and receiving has settled more or less on the agenda of all of us ... We do not perceive this as the most important issue of our lives at the end of each year yet, but here the whole life in America focuses on receiving and giving gifts. Seniors are small, small ones are big, everyone is in a hurry to give something to their loved ones. And in US, the industry's diameter is exactly $ 25 billion. If we take into account the 3 billion dollar gift basket industry, we can understand the importance of this issue ...
Just that? There is also the psychology of this meaningful and pleasing action: Why do we give the gifts we give, why we have difficulty accepting a gift given to us, how much of the gift, can we capture the elegance in the art of giving and receiving gifts? Psychologists say “Giving gifts means essentially receiving. This is at least to be happy to see the other is happy. ” And they add, Although it seems to be quite contrary to the common understanding, do we actually leave that person indebted to us when we give someone a present? Research shows that especially big gift-makers have great expectations.
Olog Most of those who give great gifts are giving gifts for love or value under the guise of generosity, says psychologists. The interesting thing is that usually big gifters are not happy with the recycling of their gift! It is most often seen that they blame the people they give gifts as unfaithful, unworthy or rude. So the investment they make doesn't match for them! Another important aspect of gift giving is communication. A social communication that helps us to express our feelings to the other person, to pay our debts, to determine their positions in groups of people.
What we give is absolutely important, but how do we give it?
Some of us don't like the feeling of staying under others. He can inevitably have a sense of weakness when he accepts a gift. According to psychologists, the feeling of worthlessness, the lack of love and praise that settled in us as a child makes it difficult to buy gifts in adult life! While the idea of yaygın I am not worth it, why has he treated me so well? Görün seems to be common, Bu How am I going to respond to this, what should I do to avoid being under this gift? Hemen comes right behind.
Professor Langer, a Harvard psychologist, approaches this issue in a very practical way: Review your thoughts. Accepting a gift with grace can be seen as not merely receiving, but on the contrary, giving happiness to someone else. ” You should remember that your grace and appreciation will make the person who gives you the gift happy.
What about those who can really be thankful?
What really matters in the gift-giving event is the real intention behind the gift. It's not the gift itself. Some people can really feel grateful. Giving gifts for them is nothing but a translation of emotions that they cannot easily express in words. If we take a look at such a history, we see that the Romans consider being thankful as the touchstone of civilization. What about contemporary social scientists?
They say that the feeling of gratitude has a very important place in getting rid of the wild nature and stepping into grace. This quality of people, that is to be grateful, does not only affect the gift giving in our daily life. Research shows that those who can be truly grateful regularly speak of higher levels of positive emotions. More importantly, they face much less depression and stress!
What's your gift-giving style?
While some see the gift as a work to be completed in the shop, others see it as one of the most excellent ways of telling things they love and value.
For inspiration, you:
a. You rely on your own instincts.
b. You use your imagination.
c. You scan websites, catalogs.
D. You're improvising.
Not in the gift shops you wish to buy, you can:
a. You scan the store thoroughly, in case there's anything else to buy.
b. You plan to take the materials and do something similar to the dream of yourself as soon as possible.
c. You're angry at yourself for not having done this before.
D. If he doesn't, I say I'll take whatever's close to him.
Let's say one of your family gave you a list of the gifts you desire. What happens to your reaction?
a. You will take the list with you when you go shopping.
b. You won't even look at the list. The surprise you want to make. You won't be surprised if you choose from the list.
c. You like it as an idea, but you still regret it on the list ...
D. Oh, the load is off me. Now you say you find something that will get much easier.
Your elt wishes you to get off the play mats on the ground so that he can play for his little girl in the new year.
a. You found one that you liked, but you still have other gift ideas in mind.
b. In Let someone else get the play mat, I want to get something much more original, unuz you say.
c. In detail, you examine the quality of play mats on the market.
D. You immediately buy the first floor mat on the Internet.
Your mother never liked the gift you received for your mother.
a. You angry.
b. You're disappointed.
c. To tell you the truth, you're a little nervous.
D. Your comfort never escapes.
Your nephews are trying to open a huge pile of gifts.
a. You think there's not even a little expression of satisfaction when they open the presents.
b. I think if they had a piece of wood and a wire they would have had more fun than opening a gift.
c. Lar Even if there is one, they will find a gift that they will like, ”you say.
D. I'm not going to try to get something next year, you know, you don't even know the gesture you're saying, these kids.
When you were given a gift you didn't like when you were little:
a. You threw that toy into a corner.
b. You have turned the given toy into something you might like more.
c. You never played a toy you didn't like, so no one would understand.
D. You cried because of your frustration.
If you had the chance to choose any gift you want, which one would you choose?
b. Endless youth vaccine.
c. An angel who will fulfill all your desires.
D. Unlimited wealth.
We will now look at the number of times (a, b, c, d) which were used to measure the result of the test.
Your answers ... If the majority is 'a, it is a pleasure to give gifts:
Giving gifts to others is a pleasure and happiness for you. You think of something for everyone you love in detail during special gift periods such as Christmas. And you trust your instincts when you make a choice. You take into consideration the personality structure and tastes of the other person. You don't think the gift should be expensive. The important thing is to have a gift that can make your loved one happy. Giving gifts for you is equal to giving happiness. Briefly, you are one of those who feel like they have received gifts when you give them gifts.
If the majority is ‘b, you give the gift in a totally creative way:
The art of giving you gifts is equal to being original. You find original ideas that no one would think of in your gift selection. The majority of the shops can not be your stop. The shops hidden around the corner are in your radar area. Your gift-giving style shows that you see yourself as essentially different from those around you.
You try to show this difference to the person you give a gift to. The gift you give is essentially a part of your personality. Therefore, when you think that the person does not like the gift you choose, you are experiencing a great disappointment. It's a good thing to be original, but you need to keep some distance from the gifts you receive. Gifts don't have to be the seal of your personality.
If the majority is ‘c, you give gifts completely indifferently:
Exchanging Christmas gifts for you is just a task. When choosing a gift, it is not a measure of whether you really like it or not. Preferably you get all the gifts you need at a time to save time. So why are you having such a disconnect? As a person with little confidence in others, it does not come to your business to make emotional investment. The message you send is very clear: I don't even care to make you happy! I'm just giving you something to keep my hands free.
If the majority is ‘d, you give the gift with fear: